Right now you are the sum total of all of the choices and decisions you have made to date. If you’re happy with your life – keep up the good work! If you’re not happy with your life or certain areas of your life, then you are going to have to start making some different decisions and choices in order to turn things around.
Below are two questions which, if answered honestly, will reveal your current choices and decisions that are holding you back. The third question if answered and actioned can be the catalyst for shunting yourself in the direction of your hopes and dreams.
What are you tolerating in your life right now that is holding you back?
What are your top three actions or inactions that are fostering mediocrity in your life right now?
What action, big or small, can you take today to signify that you are serious about getting what you want?
When you ask the world for something – be it a new relationship, a better job, more money or a bright red Lamborghini, you have to consistently act in alignment with that request if you are to stand any chance of actually getting it. You have to show up in every way possible as the type of person that gets what it is you have asked for.
Imagine you are the star of a reality TV show and you have a film crew following you 24/7. The ultimate prize for winning the show is that you get whatever it is that you have asked for – more money, fulfilling work, your dream partner, your ideal body.
In order to win the prize, you have to convince the film crew and the viewers of the show that you are consistently BEING the type of person who gets what it is you have asked for. Your every move is being watched, and assessed to see if you are convincing enough to win.
Technology has advanced and so there is a camera inside your head, watching you from inside your own mind. They’re looking through your eyes and can hear your thoughts.
They’re also watching through the eyes of the people you interact with. Assessing if you are fully embodying the qualities you need to possess in order to go to the next level of life you have been striving for.
Here’s the thing; there isn’t really an audience. The only person you have to convince in order to win at the game of life is yourself. Only when your thoughts, beliefs and actions have become aligned will you get what you want. And you know very well, you may be able to fool other people but you can never fool yourself. If you are pretending to embody the qualities you need to possess in order to attain what you want but you are tolerating behaviour from yourself or others that is not aligned with what you want deep down, you are not going to get what you want. Your beliefs, thoughts and actions must be congruent and consistent for you to get what you want most in life.
The good news is, you have complete control over your thoughts, behaviour and actions. You don’t have to control or manipulate anyone else in order to get what you want. You just have to convince yourself and act consistently until you get what you want.
Evaluate your life, your decisions and your choices. Do something today that signals to yourself and to the world around you that you mean business. When you need to make a choice and you don’t make it, that is in itself a choice. Take a bold step in the direction of your dreams and let the bridges you burn light the way.
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